Should Christians Use Sex Toys?
What's your take on married couples using sex toys from sites like Christianbed or other adult toys for sexual pleasure with one another?
Scripture states that sex is God's unique gift to a husband and wife confined within the sacred bonds of marriage.
There are biblical teachings on the significance and objective of marital sex, principles that underlie and shape all types of physical intimacy in marriage:
- It is intended to be a sign of Christ's union with His Church.
- The joining of two people into one flesh is at the heart of marriage.
- The goal of this work is to provide a framework for understanding the role that pleasure and delight play in God's creative process.
The importance of love, freedom, and selflessness in marriage
Marriage is a relationship of love, according to Christian teaching, in which a man and woman represent for each other the self-sacrificial aspect of Christ's love for His Church. Sex is never supposed to be "all about me." Instead, it's intended to perform as a component of the give-and-take of a social connection. It's a holy mystery that serves as a powerful bonding agent in relationships between men and women.
Where there is love, there is freedom since God has given a husband and wife the right and power to define their sexual relationship in their own way. Nobody else has the authority or right to tell them how to act in bed as long as their behavior is not contrary to Scripture.
Love, on the other hand, implies that each spouse is required to prioritize their partner's needs, feelings, desires, and preferences. Mutual agreement is therefore essential for all healthy sexual intimacy in marriage.
Consent implies that both parties are aware of what is being discussed and expected. They must be confident in their understanding of the physical and emotional consequences of the proposed action. There should be opportunity for debate. Both partners are always free to say no, according to this view.
Respect, humility, and forbearance are all critical to any human relationship. Both spouses should never be compelled to do anything they are uncomfortable with. In a healthy partnership, marital sex is an important component. It's not something to be toyed with just for the sake of one person's personal enjoyment or for the benefit of one partner.
So, what about sex toys?
Scripture never addresses the topic of sex toys or "marital aids," so we'd suggest (tentatively) that couples determine for themselves.
However, we'd be quick to point out that mutual agreement is required. If you have any concerns about sex toys, don't make a decision until you and your spouse have had a chance to talk it over. Your spouse shouldn't pressure you into doing anything that makes you uncomfortable. You should not give in to such coercion — doing so would violate your own integrity.
And if either of you has a history of porn or sexual addiction, or sex abuse, you should definitely steer clear of sex toys altogether.
Though they are the most popular option, choosing them may also help you avoid some of the negative results that come with pornography addiction. Using them would encourage a propensity toward depersonalizing sexual intimacy, which might lead to participation in dark, porn-related sexual activities.
Intimacy in marriage is a lifelong procedure that includes both sexual and emotional elements.
Finally, to conclude our discussion, remember that as you progress and learn together, you must cover your relationship with respect.
Different types of expression may be appropriate at different times, such as in youth and old age; during periods of stress and joy; during pregnancy, childbirth, and child-rearing; throughout menopause; and so on.